Statement of personal experience with mental
I come from a dysfunctional family with mild to moderate levels of mental illness. The
mental illness is exhibited as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive(OCD) via unhealthy
stress(PTSD), personality disorders, and attention
deficit(ADHD). Two other illnesses in my family that can negatively affect mental health are
Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue syndrome are
characterized by chronic widespread pain and fatigue for unknown reasons.
My mother, father, and siblings exhibit some of the symptoms of these illnesses.
My parents and siblings have not been able to maintain a positive relationship. This has lead
to my parents and siblings not getting together for family celebrations such as birthdays,
Thanksgiving, and Christmas since 1978. They all live in the Mayfield area so travel is not an
issue. I have tried to make peace and maintain a relationship
with all family members but it is very challenging. You likely have heard
the phrase, "they had a personality conflict or a falling out." A "personality conflict" or a "falling
out" can be the result of personality disorders.
Dysfunctional family patterns run in cycles and tend to repeat if not acknowledged and
overcome in a healthy manner.
People in dysfunctional families tend to shift blame to other people and deny personal
responsibility for their actions.
I exhibit some symptoms of these illnesses and dysfunctions but they do not impair my
ability to provide quality counseling. Personal experience gives me understanding, knowledge,
and compassion to enhance the counseling I provide.
My personal experience with mental illness, living in a dysfunctional family, and having a
to help others are the primary reasons
I entered the
In my own experience the following are some tasks that must happen to stop the cycle of
1. Have a willingness to change.
2. Pray, study, and seek God's help.
3. Be humble and accept that I'm not always right.
4. Seek wise counseling.
5. Do not expect perfection.
6. Stop attempting to control, in other words letting go & letting God.
7. Forgive past dysfunction, but beware...trusting again may not be a safe option. Healthy
boundaries are critical.
8. Do not participate with or enable those who continue in the dysfunction, maintain boundaries.
9. Go through a healing process. Do the hard work and face the tough choices.
10. Make permanent changes in attitudes and work to relate with people in healthy ways.
Joseph A. Williams
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