Williams Christian Counseling - Marriage Counseling

Williams Christian Counseling
Regarding Marriage Counseling

When should you consider visiting a Christian marriage counselor?
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Does it seem that, despite fervent and consistent prayer, the distance between my spouse and me is becoming greater and greater?
Does it seem that walls are going up between us and that communication is either nonexistent or not very effective?
Has there been infidelity or strong suspicion of infidelity?
Is one or both of us finding it difficult to build, maintain, or rebuild trust in our marriage?
Have persistent attempts to resolve issues of trust and commitment been largely unsuccessful?
Do we seem to have lost a sense of God's purpose for our marriage?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it would likely be advantageous for you to take some time to visit a trained Christian marriage counselor. The counselor will help you and your spouse look at the issues you're facing, offer sound Biblical counsel, and help you establish a plan to address them.

What does Christian marriage counseling address?
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Christian marriage counseling can help you in several areas where you may be struggling. First, counseling can help you deal with individual concerns that have come up for one or both of you such as grief, doubt, anger management, and other unresolved concerns. Second, counseling can help you deal with relational issues, including everything from a loss of closeness, to conflict resolution, and to infidelity. Third, counseling can help refocus your marriage when one or both of you feels like you've lost a sense of devotion to God's principles for your lives.

Statements from Clients - Testimonials

"Thank you for your excellent advice yesterday! Your insight is amazing! Wish I was smarter but guess that is why GOD gave us different talents! Treating her as Christ treats the Church is absolutely the right thing to do, love her as Christ loves the Church! Thank you again!"
"I like how you brainstorm with us and help us see different options."
"You have a lot of wisdom to share, thank you."

Williams Christian Counseling disclosures:

I have really enjoyed marriage counseling since my first case back in 1999. It is great to see hope return in couples when they see that change is possible in their marriage.

I'm not a marriage expert. I'm single and have never been married. I have had some very good dating experiences, but have not yet met the one God has for me. I feel qualified to do marriage counseling based on: 1. My education and training by marriage counselors. 2. Experience working with numerous couples. 3. My own relationship experiences. and 4. Most importantly, guidance, insight, wisdom, and discernment given by the Holy Spirit.

A great number of couples I work with have already been to marriage seminars and may have read relationship-help books. They already have most of the knowledge needed to change their relationship for better. What they need is someone to hold them accountable for putting the knowledge into practice. That is where I can be of value assisting the couple with knowledge application to change their relationship habits.

Every couple is different. A technique that works well with one couple may not work well with another couple. Being single enables me to not have biases based on personal experience with what I believe works best in a marriage.

For Pre-Marital counseling I use Gary Chapman's series titled, "Things I wish I'd known before we got Married."

For a great number of Marital counseling cases I use Emerson Eggerichs book titled, "Love & Respect."

Of course I use a Christ centered approach with all my clients. The following is a sample treatment plan for a couple that I have worked with, the names have been removed to maintain confidentiality. Several specific recommendations are added during the counseling sessions.

Sample treatment plan for a couple:

Husband & Wife will pray at least once daily for healing, reconciliation, improved communication, and discernment in their marriage.
Husband & Wife will have some type of Bible study devotional daily to learn and grow in their relationship with the Lord.
Husband & Wife will get back into church or stay active in church and rededicate their lives and relationship to the Lord.
Husband & Wife will treat each other as they would like to be treated.
Husband & Wife will exercise at least 30 minutes daily. Exercising is a very effective stress management technique. When stress is managed better conflict is less likely in relationships.
Husband & Wife will eat healthy daily and avoid snacking on junk food. They will make sure to get plenty of protein. When possible drink several glasses of water each day. Proper nutrition helps a person think clearer and negotiate relationships more effectively.
Husband & Wife will get adequate sleep. Adequate sleep helps a person cope more effectively with life and enjoy improved overall health.
Husband & Wife will have a date night at least twice monthly, weekly if possible.
Based on what is discussed in counseling....husband & wife will do ------------- on a -------- basis.
Based on what is discussed in counseling....wife will do ------------- on a daily basis.
Based on what is discussed in counseling....husband will do ------------- on a daily basis.
Husband & Wife are going to read, discuss, and apply skills from , "---------------."

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Sincerely, Joseph A. Williams

Email: joseph@williamscc.org

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